Weddings: what is right?

Over the past few years, I have attended a number of weddings. I am one of those people who cry during the ceremony – whether I know the couple well or not – so it’s no surprise that I’ve enjoyed myself at each and every event.

What I’ve found interesting is that each wedding I attended was so completely different from all of the others. I think I’ve seen a complete range – from inexpensive yet personal, to thoroughly expensive and trendy. This range of experiences has left me highly confused, and I honestly have no idea what the “right” type of wedding consists of.

Four years ago, my friends Matt and Leah were married. They were the first of our friends to tie the knot, so they had the daunting task of planning the first wedding. Deciding to be unique and original, their marriage ceremony was conducted amongst the ruins of the St. Boniface Monastery. And, to make the setting even more magical, the bride was escorted in via horse and carriage.

It was completely unorthodox, yet inexpensive, gorgeous and magical.

A few months ago, friends Tyler and Kristen were married at St. Luke’s Anglican Church on Nassau Street. The church was chosen specifically for its aesthetic value, because it boasted gorgeous, stained glass windows, a long, center aisle, and a collection of church bells to announce the exit of the newly-married couple.

It was also unorthodox, as neither bride nor groom actually attends that particular church, yet it was definitely magical.

And a few weekends ago, friend’s Kelvin and Tavia were married in the bride’s childhood Catholic church. It was her Reverend who conducted the ceremony, and members of her congregation who led the audience in song and prayer. The ceremony was very traditional, but that is exactly what the couple wanted.

When thinking about the reception, I have experienced everything, including local community centres, banquet halls in hotels, church basements and country clubs. There have been cash bars, open bars, gigantic centrepieces, colourful cakes, dessert bars and even candy and chocolate buffets.

There seems to be no guidelines whatsoever when it comes to the reception, and anything a person imagines can be created.

I will admit... I really DO care about the cake...

So what is considered to be an acceptable cost for a 20-something’s wedding in the 21^st century? According to Wiki Answers, anywhere between $25,000 – 50,000 is acceptable for the “common person.” A friend who is currently in the process of planning his wedding told me that $12,000 (including honeymoon) was what his day will cost.

I like the second option much better…

I guess there really is no right or wrong answer, and each couple is free to plan (and spend) what works for them. In the past, a wedding has been an illustration of the wealth of the couple – and their parents. Not anymore. Personally, I think I’m making a more positive example of my financial situation by holding a thrifty yet personal wedding while saving enough money to purchase a house soon after my nuptials.